How do I love thee? Numbers tell all in book

Wed Mar 28, 2012 4:27pm EDT
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By Elaine Lies

TOKYO (Reuters) - When a man thinks his partner is cheating on him, chances are fifty-fifty that he's right. But if a woman suspects her nearest and dearest of being unfaithful, she's correct a whopping 85 percent of the time.

Special intuition? No, simply numbers - as compiled in "Love by Numbers," a wide-ranging and sometimes wacky look at the figures and trends behind how and who people love, drawn up by Australian statistician John Croucher as a tongue-in-cheek way, so to speak, of making sense out of romance and sex.

"Ask men what makes their blood run cold when your partner says it to you and number one in all the surveys I've seen is, 'We have to talk.' Men don't want to talk and if she does she's either going to leave him, found somebody else or found something out about him," said Croucher, a professor at Macquarie University, as an example.

"The second one was 'Who was that woman I saw you talking to?' I think for women it was 'What's for dinner?'"

Among the many tidbits in Croucher's book, the result of years of research plus a study of people's behavior in speed dating, are things as disparate as the fact that 68 percent of men think a woman's invitation to have coffee is really an invitation to have sex, or that 11 percent of respondents in the United States have ended a relationship because of a cat.

Given that some 60 to 90 percent of physical communication between humans is due to unspoken signals, a sizeable chunk of the book is devoted to how to translate that body language in the most useful way.

Guys, want to look attractive to women? Wear a red shirt and chat up another woman - or better yet, two women. But if you're a woman, men find you more appealing if you're alone.

A woman who flips her hair or crosses her legs is trying to get a man's attention, as is one who strokes a rounded object like her drinks glass. But if she puts her purse behind her this is not a good sign - the bag is an extension of herself, and she's hiding.   Continued...

View of padlocks, placed there by lovers, on the Pont de l'Archeveche bridge near Notre Dame on the Seine river in Paris September 13, 2010. REUTERS/Charles Platiau